Hi, my name is Lisa and I'm writing this LFEBridge because after the death of my common-law husband Lary and Taylor's father passed away on February 17th of 2024 we have had very little help except for my brother-in-law Miles and my sister Natalie. Let me start at the beginning- Lary and I met in April of 1992 on my way to my last day working for GPO at the Denver Federal Center. He was driving the bus and I was a passenger, when I got on the bus I was shocked because he looked exactly like one of my co-workers, Gary. When I got to work that day I went back to where Gary worked, and I asked him what he was doing driving the bus, he replied "Oh that was my twin brother Lary." From that point anytime I caught the bus it seemed like Lary was the one driving and after a while, I told him about Gary working with me- he thought that was funny, and kept asking for my phone number. Finally, one day I gave it to him- he called me that night and we ended up going out on a date, from that point on we were inseparable (even though he was quite a bit older than me). After years of dating, we decided to move in together, and in 1995 we purchased a townhome and got a couple of dogs we lived there for six years but after our dog (Molly) died on Valentine's Day so, shortly after we sold our townhome and in the summer of 2001 we moved again (always to be closer to his work) In 2004 right before I found out I was pregnant, which at the time was a good and a bad thing- neither of us was prepared to have a child... he already had 4 from previous relationships. In the first month or so while I was pregnant- my Grandmother who I was very close to got sick and I was going to go tell her about my pregnancy that same night, she took a turn for the worst and ended up dying before I could get there. So after her death, we decided to go forward and have the baby (I was hoping for a girl, and I got an awesome baby shower invite)- On April 4th, 2005 I had my sister Natalie and her fiance Miles at the time take me to the hospital, and at 5:32 AM I gave birth to a healthy baby girl that we named Taylor Jacqueline Heinbaugh. Time passes on- we moved from place to place with our baby and our dogs... we lived with family for a while, until January of 2009 we moved to a beautiful rental house in Brighton Colorado- so we could be closer to his job. Then our landlord decided to sell the house in 2011- forcing us to find our current home which is a couple blocks away, I stayed at home for a while until 2012 my boss Joe called me, and asked if I wanted a job. At first, I told him no because I was taking care of Taylor, he offered me good pay and a car to drive (during that time we only had one car and I walked Taylor to school) I told him I had to think about it and then the next day he called me back- and asked me if I was going to take the job because he needed to know, so finally I said yes. I had been working on and off for Joe since 2004. I went back to work for him and worked at Print and Copy Centers from 2012 to June of 2015 (during that time in 2014 we got an adorable Cocker Spaniel named Scarlett), on June 8th, 2015 both he and my co-worker were worried about me because I had been having a lot of migraines and nothing was helping- so Joe had my co-worker Devin drive me to Rose Medical Hospital just to get checked out, he had Devin take me knowing that I would not take myself. When he dropped me off I thought it wouldn't take much time. The nurses and doctors were shocked because I said I had a headache, little did I know that I had over 50 tumors in my brain. They told me that I was going to be admitted- and I asked them if I could go outside to make some phone calls, at that time I called everyone that I needed to to let them know what they told me and that I won't be coming back into work that day. After that I ended up staying for about 20 days while I had brain surgery first then lung surgery, I have gone through gamma knife 2-3 times (can't remember), lots of radiation, and I take pills instead of chemo. I also suffered from CDIF for years afterward and a few UTIs that seemed to hang around for months and even a year or so. A few years later on February 12th, 2024, it was a day like any other- I was in the office, Lary started walking towards the front door with his bird seed (he enjoyed giving the birds food and water) when he stopped in the middle of the living room. I got up from the chair to see what was wrong, he wasn't able to talk and he was about to drop the bird seed so I took the bird seed and put it on the coffee table, then put him up against the wall for a minute- I then walked him over to the couch, he then motioned that he wanted pen and paper. While he was writing I ran into Taylor's room (she was a Sophomore in High School and was on a Zoom call with her teacher and the other classmates) and told her that something was wrong with Dad, she came out and he wrote "Right arm went numb this morning in bathroom" then wrote "Mini Stroke". Taylor ran into her bedroom to tell her teacher that she needed to leave, I met her in the hallway and asked if we should take him to the hospital- she of course said yes and we decided that I'd take Lary to the hospital while she stayed with the dog. He went to UCHealth in Aurora, I came back home and Taylor and I decided to call and text all of his family members that night- we did our usual thing at night but kept my phone in the bedroom because they told me that they might call. At 5:30 AM they called to tell us that he had a heart attack in the middle of the night (they gave him medicine to reverse the Mini Stroke- some people would get better, some people would have no reaction, and 1% of people who would get worse and he was a part of that 1%), we immediately got up and we got to the hospital around 7:00 ish but his twin was also there with his wife. We talked to him for a bit until he said that we should be the ones to go see him (because only two people per day were allowed to see him), while that was happening they wouldn't allow Taylor to go see him because she was only 15 (she needed to be 16 but her birthday was around the corner), but with some convincing we finally were able to go up to see him. After a couple of days, his daughter Crystal and her boyfriend flew in from North Carolina on Saturday night and came to stay at our house- they immediately went to bed and woke up Sunday morning to go see him and visit some friends that still lived here. After everyone got to see him the doctor told us all that he had blood in his brain and he wasn't likely to recover, it was at that time that they decided to pull the plug and we agreed. On February 17th, 2024 they pulled the plug and he went peacefully- after that we had a small get-together to remember him and to say our goodbyes. PLEASE READ BELOW!! And from then on we have had trouble with everything- social security, we had problems with probate (I did it by myself), and right now the mortgage company and the HOA are questioning me why I'm here- because I wasn't on the original mortgage with Lary, and there are even more problems that we are going through now even though I have made the payments from the time Lary died. Anything will help, we would appreciate it- please and Thank You!
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