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Hey guys. I don't really know how to start here. So, unexpectedly my father died last night. He was only 45 years old. He had been sick for a couple of weeks, but we thought it was manageable. He had pretty severe diabetes, due to this his everyday cuts and scratches didn't heal easily. He went to the hospital in early September due to an infection he developed in his foot from a wound. While admitted, they found that he was going into kidney failure. He was put on dialysis to work to fix his kidneys, meanwhile his lungs filled up with water. When they drained his lungs, he went into heart failure. They were able to help him recover from all of this, but had to continue with his dialysis treatments four hours a day, three days a week. Later in September, they discovered he had lupus. In early October, my dad understood that he didn't need to attend his dialysis treatments so frequently. We thought he was improving. He was in and out of the hospital for two months, but always came home himself. Then, last night, my mom woke up to discover my father had passed. The doctor says they think another infection made its way into his body and it wasn't discovered. With all that being said, let me introduce you to the next few hours of my day. My father just passed, I go to my mothers house to help her collect her things. I can't let her be alone after losing her husband of twenty five years. As I'm packing her things and she's crying hysterically, she tells me about the events following my fathers passing. Her phone wasn't working, it was the middle of the night, she has a neighbor call 911. The medics and police arrive, and begin laughing at my mom. She's in a t-shirt and underwear, as it was the middle of the night and she just found her husband, she wasn't thinking clearly enough to put more clothes on. She asks the police to use their phones to call me and let me know what happened. They're laughing at her as they carry away my dad. Crying, she asks again to use their phone. "It's in the car, we can't help you". So she had to drive to a wawa to call me to let me know what just happened. (I'm not going to share the department where these police worked in hopes that the department will take these cruel actions into their own hands) Fast forward back to my getting to their house, my grandparents cat that they adopted after my grandparents passed is literally on its last breath. She can't move or hardly breathe, but was fine last night. I think the only reason this cat lived so long was because of him. So on top of this we have to put this cat to rest today. Then we're driving my parents car to my house, we're a block away and the tire flies off and we have to call a tow truck. It doesn't arrive fast enough, the police start yelling at me that they're going to tow the car themselves... I start yelling back. To save myself from being detained, I poor my heart out to them and they lighten up on me a little bit. Now to why I'm asking you to share your hard earned money with me.. My aunt is being gracious enough to help with the funeral costs. But unfortunately that is not where our new financial struggles end. My mother is living with us now, she is severely disabled and is not capable of employement. Joel and I will be caring for her as well as taking on the debt that she and my father have accrued as well as their three animals. On top of this I'm missing many hours of work to handle all of their affairs. I honestly can't even put a number on it right now, but fixing her car is a place to start. My heart and my mind are a wreck right now. Joel is being as strong as he can to take care of us. All I want to do is lie in bed and cry but there's just so much to do and no time to do it. Thank you all for your kind words and whatever it is you feel you can do to help us get our feet back on the ground. I'm sorry to ask anyone of this, I just feel like I'm drowning and this is a place to start. I miss and love my dad and I just wish this was a dream.
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