Hi, my name is Raquel I’m fundraising for my baby boy Xy Lavon Bradford. On Sunday I went to my sister to go swimming and my cousins from Palmdale also went to go visit. Everything went smoothly I got into the jacuzzi on a lukewarm/cold water for a bit. I chatted with family had a good time. We ended our night and went back home. As soon as I got home I got a huge headache and fever chills. I ate something and went to sleep. I decided not to go into work because I still had a headache. With little ventilation at work I did not think it was a good idea to go. Going into Tuesday I woke up at 12 ish almost 1. I had got up to also feed my son and chatted with little brother. We ended our conversation and I was feeling a little better so I was going to get started to get ready for work. I went to use the restroom and I noticed that I seen a faint spotting. I checked about 2 more times and got more noticiable. I finished I freaked out and went to look for my phone. Once I was looking around I felt like more came out I went to check and was more red and noticeable. I cried and called my man seeing what to do. He was at his home and told me if he doesn’t make it I should call ambulance instead. I called ambulance at 3pm and they got there as soon as they could they checked me took me to ER. They told me I was not bleeding to much not to be sent to L&D I was sent to Victorville Hospital ER. Once admitted they asked me what was going on I explained what happened. After couple hours and had got situated the Dr came by and explained he was going to do blood work and ultrasound. I waited couple hours for blood work to get done then like 2 more hours for ultrasound. I was wondering why they took forever considering my concern for baby as he was my main worry. The ultrasound tech did the ultrasound and chatted with me she seemed the most understanding and told me I know I shouldn’t show you but you looked really worried. I accepted and told yes we I really want to see baby. She showed me baby and said he’s moving a lot, I cried knowing and seeing baby moving and he looked good. She asked if I knew gender and I said yes so we took a lot and confirmed he was in fact a baby boy.! It made me happy and even though I though he was a she I felt better knowing for sure he was a boy. After that couple hours passed for the results the nurse woke me up and told me I had a UTI. I asked well why was I still bleeding and cramping. He told me the ultrasound showed baby was okay and that I was to early from the bleeding which I still was not sure about. I was prescribed medication for the UTI and sent home. My man and I went to get the medication and try eat something so I could drink it but I was still cramping a lot so I eventually threw it all up and felt nauseous. We went to get food that way I can try keep that down to take medication. We got home ate our food took the medicine and try to go to sleep. Through the night I was back and forth turning and tossing about every 30 mins or less from the cramping that felt more intense. Wednesday afternoon comes and with some fever and cramping that felt three times worse I managed to try take a shower and get ready for my regular OB check up appointment. Upon arrival still feeling horrible I took my hospital papers. They went to check me in and sent me to the ultrasound room. It was so hot that day it made me feel worse and cramping was not helping, OB comes in and I explained what had happened. He told me to lay down to do ultrasound and from the glance I got he did a ridiculously quick ultrasound check and I seen not much movement with baby. He asked me that what Hospital I gone to I told him they took me to VV Hospital he advised me that he’s not connected to that hospital only the on in St Mary’s Hospital. For anything that I go there which I did not know. He asked if they did a pelvic exam and I said no I told him what told the nurse at the hospital and he said he would’ve told them what to do if I had gone to St Mary’s. He decided to do a quick pelvic exam check and in the process as I dealt with intense cramping it hurt so bad that I wanted to scream and cry. He told me I was not bleeding and did not tell me much else. He only explained if baby decided to come early he could not do anything to prevent or stop from happening. In my heart I felt like he knew it was bad news and was not going to everything he could after that point. I felt helpless and in so much pain. I told him what I could do to stop the cramping because it would not stop he only said I could take me Tylenol for pain. I felt miserable he told me for any else or bleed to go to St Mary’s. He told me take care and walked out. I felt he only to in total from when I got there about 10 possibly ten mins of my appointment time. They gave me a week follow up which it would normally be 3 weeks so I felt very off about it. We went to get gas and he got me Tylenol for me. I made it home and decided to get some rest while my man left to take care of some things and I was okay with it and went inside to get some rest. I took the Tylenol and got some rest. I eventually woke up at 2 am and decided to tell my brother to get me some grapes and fill my water bottle that was I can eat something and take my medication for UTI. I chatted to my brother and after a while and eating I took my medicine and a bit after the Tylenol for pain. It was helping that way I can even sleep. I woke up Thursday around 8 ish in the morning and a little before waking up all the way I felt like a little drop and kinda felt like the cramping felt way more intense and felt like it felt longer to go away. I took another Tylenol and after a bit I got up to use the rest room. As I got to the bathroom I sat on toilet and a sudden bulge started to come I touched and it felt to me baby’s head I rushed back to my room so if baby came out it wouldn’t fall on toilet. I called my man immediately to tell him and I was going to call ambulance. I called ambulance and by that time baby came out with sac. On the phone they told me to feel if baby was moving and I truly felt like baby was not moving and was told to rupture sac. I clean baby and see if he made movement. I told my brother to open door for paramedics to come in. They came to check and take a look I had to lay down and baby was still attached to placenta that was in my stomach. After a bit he told me baby didn’t seem to show sign he was moving but another paramedic said they saw something. They called the dr and was advised to not cut the cord and wrap him in something warm. I get in the stretched to be rushed to hospital. Once there to St Mary’s a lot of nurses on stand by to get me in to a room and checked in and hooked up. A different OB comes in to explain that they’ll need to try get placenta out. They also checked baby and assured me baby did not survive I cried and waited for my man to come on in after they got me situated. After came with everything else 2 nurses gave us time with our baby and despite all that we were undecided of name but thought Xy was one we might go with but was in thought. But once nurse asked we knew that would be the name. They took foot prints and was placed baby blanket and box. That pretty much sums up to the story everything else is not much but don’t need to be added. Please excuse for adding very delicate details. As a mother grieving this tragedy. This traumatic experience is something I wish no mother should go through. My son for the time he had to be sent to grandmas from the first hospital visit once he found out he also cried his eyes out for his baby brother. This one hurt to the core of our souls and baby will be in our hearts forever. I ask of you my friends and family or anyone want to support. A dollar donation or any donation is greatly appreciated.! This fundraiser we are raising is because we want to cremate our baby to keep him home. We made this decision and feel is the right choice for us. This a story I will never forget and all I can think about if maybe there was another way. We believe our OB felt a vibe about us especially toward my man most likely because he is black. I felt like something could be prevented I wish I could have done more. I know as a mother I try to be that strong mother. I feel completely lost, emotionally drained and helpless. My man also felt as if he’s as fault and I know it’s not an easy feeling all I know is we love our baby Xy and I’m still trying to recover and grieve. Thank you for your time and appreciate the ones who read the story to the end. It was a raw delicate story and with a lot of details but this story is real and it’s very sensitive to me. -I overall thank my man for all of his comforting hugs, night stays, the food and rides he gave me everywhere. I appreciate you baby for being there for everything and for me and also being the man and attending your family as well. I love you with all my heart.
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